Sunday, April 20, 2008

Motherly Woes

So I might say that often mothers are bombarded with what to do and what not to do in EVERY aspect known to man of your sweet little child's life. I'm certain you've all heard millions of things...don't feed them this, make sure you feed them this- only not until they are at this age...don't use this product, unless of course you want to chance killing your child...blah-blah-blah. These so-called helpful bits of information are sometimes overwhelming for me. Usually I take them like a grain of salt and stick to the way I feel good about raising my children, but occasionally I will take some to heart and give them a fair trial.

Here is one that has effected us more than most for the last year or so...

When Christian was 4 months or so, someone mentioned to me that you should not use a bumper on a baby's crib because it increases the chances of SIDS. I thought about it for awhile, then while we were moving I decided to just pack it up and try without. What these people didn't mention was that it causes late night crying and odd bruises on chubby little arms and legs. One night we had decided that Christian would have to "cry it out" since he no longer had a paci to go to bed. After 45 minutes of letting poor Christian "cry it out" Tyler went in to find his thigh stuck in between two posts and if you have seen his thighs you realize how painful this must have been. There we bruises...we felt bad...really bad.

So, instead of solving this problem by bringing the cuter and now safer (in my mind) bumper back he has learned to adapt. It will just make him stronger, right? So when I found him like this the other night, I smiled, thought of this story and took a picture.

4 comments:

Joe and Amy said...

That's cute...and so funny because I can totally relate! We had a bumper for Brynn, totally cute, but totally cheap, I heard that same guideline after we had Abby and it was perfect because Brynn had just torn the string on our old bumper, why bother getting a new one. I'm way too practical, so we've had 2 of 3 without and they've survived....but I have to say it has more to do with my practicality than safety. Is that sad?

Keepin' up with the Jones' said...

bless his heart! we too took the crib bumper out. i let tyson cry it out a couple of times, only to go in and find that he had a dirty diaper and he was sound asleep. i felt like the worst mom ever!!

Tracie said...

Wow...I have never heard the bumper thing. Sometimes, I guess naivety really is bliss:) But I have certainly unknowingly let my children cry with appendages stuck in the bars of the crib. It's heartbreaking to walk into that scene.

Kearl said...

A similar thing happened to Luke. His bent knee got stuck. I too felt like the worst parent in the world for a moment. I put the bumper back on, but he started standing on it to get higher, so now it's pushed down all the way covering the mattress.